I’ve never had therapy. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to counseling weak?
Nope, not at all. I believe it takes courage and strength to reach out for help. Sure, you can get through this on our own. Of course you can. You’ve survived every single day so far. And, maybe it doesn’t have to be this difficult? Maybe you don’t have to get through this particular struggle on your own? Everyone needs help now and then. In our work together, we capitalize on your strengths and working through whatever it is that is causing your current struggles.
My friends and family are super supportive; why would I also need a therapist?
It can be helpful to talk with and explore your situation with someone whose only interest in the story is your well-being. Family and friends may find it difficult to tolerate your pain–this is natural, they love you and want you happy. This can look like trying fix you or your “problem.” While I aim to be helpful, I’m not able to fix you; I am not likely to see you as broken. I am able to sit with your discomfort, your pain, your grief. I am able to witness and hold how difficult this is. From this place, from this very tender and precious place, we can work toward less suffering and more ease together.
Wouldn’t medication be easier?
Medication can be effective and is not likely to solve all issues related to mood, anxiety, and stress. Sometimes medication may help to prepare a person to have more access to internal resources to fully enjoy the benefits of therapy. I am not a prescriber and am not able to consult about medications. If you’re curious about whether meds might be helpful to you, please contact your primary care provider.
How does it work? What does a typical session look like?
It’s a bit of a mystery how it all works, isn’t it? I believe all humans long to be seen, valued, understood. We all want to be happy and be free of suffering. During our times together, we explore the causes of suffering in your life and try to ease their burden. When clients arrive not knowing what to talk about I ask, “what feels important?” This often evokes just where to focus–your internal wisdom knows. I am always open to your input and feedback.
How long will it take?
It’s not possible to say how many therapy hours would be required for a particular concern–largely because nothing happens in a vacuum, other concerns may arise. Some issues can be worked through in several sessions. Alternatively, it’s not uncommon for people to work with me for 1-2 years or more. It’s also common for clients to return to treatment months or years later for a few sessions as a refresher or to deepen the gains made. You can expect to spend anywhere from nine months to a couple of years in weekly therapy to make deep, characterological changes. These are not changes that occur out of willpower and determination, but out of a very real change deep inside of you. These are the changes that allow you to experience yourself as different, more accessible, more fully alive, and with less effort.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
Show up for yourself. Imagine the possibility of less pain and more ease. Be courageously open to yourself and your wildest dreams.